Why it feels like a losing battle

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I acknowledge that there has been significant progress in women’s rights over the centuries. I know as a woman in this time I’m lucky to be able to do all the things I can do, and do them freely. I can date, work, go to school, and choose not to get married or have children.

However, I also know that even now there are communities that still have the same backdated views that they force their daughters, wives, and sisters to follow.

There are still numerous stigmas ingrained in our societies that women are still forced to follow because if…


It was just the beginning

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Disclaimer: Everything I talk about in this post is solely based on my experiences. I’m not a therapist or licensed physician. There’s mention of suicide and death in this so please don’t read this if you feel this may trigger you.

For as long as I can remember I’ve struggled with my mental health. Throughout my life, there have been times when I’ve been afraid of my own thoughts and afraid of just being alone.

My intrusive thoughts would consume me.

Early Memories

The earliest memory I have of intrusive thoughts is from when I was about nine years old. The first…


TW: Talks about torture, murder, and sexual assault of children

Pedophile Peter Skully’s mugshot
Pedophile Peter Skully’s mugshot
Peter Scully’s mugshot

55-year-old Peter Gerard Scully from Australia is dubbed the worst pedophile in the world.

Background

A video began circulating the internet between 2013–2014. It was found in chat forums on different websites.

This video was a four-part “film” and each part was 10–15 minutes long. It was called “Daisy’s Destruction.”

The film was initially a myth on the dark web and people were talking about a horrifying and disturbing video circulating the internet. However, none of these people had actually seen this video so they didn’t know if it was real or not.

Unfortunately, upon further investigation by police, it was…


Building a relationship is not a straight line.

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I’m a 23-year-old Hindu girl born in Canada so an arranged marriage is not at all appealing to me.

Honestly, I’ve been using dating apps for years now and I’ve had no luck in finding someone that I like or trust.

I’ve had a relationship here and there with men that I met off these apps but nothing has ever stuck. There were always issues that I never thought were worth working out.

Even while being in these said relationships I never really saw a future with these people. They always felt so temporary. …


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When your partner doesn’t feel like being intimate with you it’s important to have a conversation and not an argument. If your partner has depression and you are aware of it, don’t ever try to make your partner feel bad about not wanting to be intimate with you.

Keep in mind that when someone is trying to fight the feelings that come with depression, it takes up every inch of energy they have left in them to do so.

People with depression will often have no desire to connect with another person on an intimate level.


She was murdered over a pair of leggings

30-year-old Jayna Troxel Murray

30-year-old Jayna Troxel Murray was murdered on March 11th, 2011 at the Lululemon store she worked at in Washington D.C. in the suburbs of Maryland, Bethesda.

Background

Jayna Murray was pursuing two master’s degrees from Johns Hopkins University. She was also working part-time at the Bethesda Lululemon.

Murray’s friends described her as a thrill-seeker and adventurous. She loved the excitement she got from bungee jumping but she also loved yoga. She felt that yoga balanced out the adventurous side of her. Making her calmer and stress-free which is why working at Lululemon was perfect for her.

The Murder

On the night of Wednesday…


“I am not going to argue with you about what I know I experienced.”

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Gaslighting is a form of psychological and emotional abuse where you manipulate someone into doubting or disbelieving their perceptions of reality, feelings, and even sanity.

With gaslighting, someone can deny visible facts and experiences.

What are the signs of Gaslighting?

  1. Constantly worrying that you are interpreting things wrong and feeling like you’re overreacting.
  2. Thinking everything that happens is your fault.
  3. Their actions don’t match their words.
  4. They constantly shift the blame onto you even if it’s something they did.
  5. They insult you sometimes and praise you other times.
  6. They make you feel confused about memories, experiences, and facts.

What can Gaslighting sound like?

  1. “You’re Crazy.”
  2. “You’re so sensitive”
  3. “You’re so dramatic.”


She was raped, murdered, and then left on the beach face down

15-year-old Scarlett Eden Keeling

Scarlett Eden Keeling was a 15-year-old British tourist found dead on Anjuna beach in Goa, India on February 18th, 2008.

Background

Scarlett Eden Keeling was born on July 5th, 1992, in Stevenage Borough, Hertfordshire, England. Scarlett and her family later moved around Devon which is located on the southwest side of England.

Scarlett’s family home in Devon was described to be located past a very windy road. Scarlett and her siblings would go bareback riding on their horses to get supplies from the stores. The family was described to be “hippies” because of the way they chose to live.

Scarlett had…


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I don’t understand why people think it’s okay to pry into others’ lives. Especially into extremely personal things like pregnancy.

Whether you have children or not you know that having and raising a child is a huge decision and a lifetime responsibility.

Us women are constantly pressured to get married and have children within a certain time frame because as my grandma would say “your biological clock is ticking”.

A Woman’s Career Goals Aren’t Celebrated Enough

It’s absurd to me that a woman’s achievements and career goals are not celebrated at the same level as when she is engaged, married, or pregnant.

Don’t get me wrong I…


He raped and murdered her all because she rejected him

25-year-old Priyadarshini Mattoo

Background

Priyadarshini Mattoo was born on July 23rd, 1970 to father Chaman Lal Mattoo and mother Rageshwari Mattoo. She was born in India in the state of Kashmir, Srinagar. She went to The Presentation Convent School and once she finished school there she migrated with her parents to Jammu where she completed her undergraduate degree at MAM College. After this, she started law school at Dehli University.

She was described to be a beautiful and smart young woman who was extremely driven, well-mannered, and goal-oriented. She was also described to be very musically talented. She came from a talented family of…

Prerna Majumdar

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